It's not about the other person, but about you. In simple words, forgiveness is about healing. It's the ability to give yourself the emotional space to find inner peace despite what the other person did that hurt you.
Sometimes, though, it's not about forgiving someone else but forgiving yourself.
The best we can do is try not to take things PERSONALLY. That means, even ourselves. Remember that as long as the ego has control, one can judge not only others harshly but also be one's own worst enemy.
Guilt, shame, and hate are poison to your body.
Many times, mistakes are made because, at that moment, you didn't know any better, or couldn't do any better.
Even when someone seems to hurt you on purpose, their actions stem from the pain they are feeling inside. Someone unhappy with their life is more likely to lash out than someone happy.
A person who knows who they are will not easily feel insulted by a negative comment because someone else is having a bad day.
It is important to take into account that forgiveness does not mean remaining in a toxic situation where abuse exists. This is something else entirely. In this case, you may understand where the person is coming from, but that does not justify mistreatment. This is where self-love steps in, and boundaries are placed.
In the meantime, practice forgiving others for hurting you. Forgive yourself for hurting others, and most of all, forgive yourself for hurting yourself.
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